• Kyodo


The boy had been coming to play at her home almost daily — even when her son was not around.

The woman, a housewife in her 30s living in the Kanto region, would serve the child snacks, and it was not uncommon for him to eat dinner with her and her family, or stay late into the night.

So when she discovered that he was not a friend of her son, or even an acquaintance, the woman was dumbstruck as to what the young boy was doing coming to her home so regularly.

The anecdote, as strange as it seems, is not all that uncommon in a growing number of places across Japan, with neighborhood children spending time at strangers’ and acquaintances’ homes, or wandering the streets aimlessly after being left unsupervised by their parents who are absent due to work restraints, or perhaps even simple indifference.

The Japanese word for such children, hōchigo (literally, left-alone child), entered the lexicon around 2010.

Although there are no concrete numbers to determine the extent of the phenomenon, bewildered parents are taking to social media in numbers to vent about the people who allow their kids to take advantage of their good graces, with some even discussing how to get the kids to leave their homes.

Experts point out that a safety net needs to be built to assist such children and their parents. But the issue is further complicated by the fact that many parents are not aware they are neglecting them in any way, thinking instead that they are just allowing them freedom.

Japan is considered safe, a country where kids are allowed from a very early age to be independent. Neighbors and the wider community foster this autonomy through the general acceptance that children in Japan, much more so than in other countries, are able to look after themselves.

Elementary school children as early as first-graders, for example, can be seen walking home from school or riding busy trains alone — something almost unheard of in other parts of the world.

Parents share their child-rearing experiences during a meeting in October in Katano, Osaka Prefecture. | ??
Parents share their child-rearing experiences during a meeting in October in Katano, Osaka Prefecture. | KYODO

The Kanto-area mother, who asked that her name not be used, began receiving her mysterious visits when her first-grade son brought a different classmate home after school. Standing behind her son and his friend was another boy who appeared a little older.

But thinking he was also her son’s friend, she invited the boy in as well and served them all snacks.

But the boy began coming more frequently and would even take food from the refrigerator without permission, she says. He would hang around, seemingly with no intention of leaving even when it got late. As her doubts grew, the woman asked her son about the boy and was astonished when he replied he had no idea who he was.

“In fact, he was a total stranger. My son said he didn’t know him at all,” she said. After consulting her son’s teacher, the woman found out that the child was in the third grade at the same school.

Although the boy stopped visiting her home after she spoke to the teacher, she would often see him hanging around outside, still apparently at loose ends.

Despite Japan remaining a country in which kids can roam, there have been instances in which that autonomy has proven problematic, especially when the internet is involved.

One such recent case saw a 12-year-old Osaka girl allegedly kidnapped and confined by a man whom she came into contact with via social media. He met her and took her on a train journey of more than 400 kilometers to his home, where he is believed to have held her against her will.

The girl was missing for almost a week before she escaped from the man, who was also holding another missing girl, identified as a 15-year-old, at his home in Oyama, Tochigi Prefecture. The older girl, from Ibaraki Prefecture, had been with him for about six months.

A characteristic of parents of hōchigo is they have little interest in what their kids are doing after school, according to experts. Such parental apathy, they say, can lead to more serious neglect, illness or even life-threatening situations.

“When the parents both work, it is easy for them to forget about spending time with their children and staying emotionally involved,” said a woman in her 40s from Yokohama who knows such a child.

“I could see how my own child could easily become like that if I am not careful,” she said.

According to the education ministry, as of 2018 there were at least 700 groups nationwide setting up seminars for parents to share information on child-rearing and promoting awareness about child neglect. Specialists from some of the groups make home visits to consult with those having trouble.

Noa Fukaya, an associate professor at Shoin University who specializes in children’s issues, says some parents lack confidence or are uncertain about the best ways to raise their children.

One major concern is that children who are left alone will become more prone to delinquency, truancy and other problems as they grow older.

What is obvious is that help must be made available to parents whose children are being neglected, Fukaya said.

“There is a limit to the support hōchigo will get from good-natured individuals. A safety net must be built into society to support such parents and their families.”

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