Regarding Grant Piper's Jan. 23 letter, "Safe life for celibate homebodies": I have my doubts about Piper's observation that local men with faltering libidos have concluded that it is safer to "stay at home and live as a celibate . . . purchase sex from rental ladies, or . . . cultivate a profound fantasy life."

Aren't these choices themselves major contributors to "herbivorous" men's ambivalent attitudes to real sexual communication with real women?

And, by the way, the "don'ts" that Piper says involve modern females have always been "don'ts" to us, modern or otherwise. The only modern thing about them is that men can't indulge in them with the same impunity as before without long-overdue legal and/or social repercussions.

laura holland