‘Tis the season to be jolly? Well … maybe not so much if you’re single during Christmas in Japan.
Being a country with a tiny Christian population, Japan has not traditionally associated the festive season with family and goodwill as in the West, but rather with pretty lights, Kentucky Fried Chicken and a romantic night out with a special someone.
An online survey by Aisekiya Labo in mid-November found that 23.3 percent of unmarried men and women aged 20 to 39 are expecting a new encounter in the lead-up to Christmas.
But some are being more naughty than nice, as it seems even those who already have a significant other see Christmas as a time for novel experiences, with 25 percent of partnered men in their 30s included in the breakdown of that figure.
About 8 percent of partnered women in their 30s, on the other hand, were looking for a new beau compared with three times as many men seeking a sweetheart in the same age category, the survey found.
“A lot of guys are in search of excitement,” said Kazuki Sawa, a researcher at Aisekiya Labo, who surveyed over 400 unmarried men and women. The self-professed love data bank is run by Section Eight Co., a Tokyo-based company that operates several dining establishments, including its flagship izakaya (traditional pub) chain Aisekiya.
Aiseki means to “share a table” and ya is a common suffix denoting restaurants and stores. True to its name, the izakaya chain offers the opportunity for men and women to meet new people, and find a potential partner, by placing them in a table with a pair of strangers of the opposite sex.
But the survey revealed even more striking results: 90.9 percent of partnered men in their 20s answered that they began, or intended to start, their search for a Christmas lover in November. It seems there are a lot of unsatisfied young men in relationships, or maybe it’s a case of the “the grass is always greener?” especially at Christmas.
Although there are various theories as to how Christmas, or rather Christmas Eve, came to be a romantic occasion in Japan, there is broad consensus that media in the 1930s played a major role.
To stimulate the economy, newspapers and other mass media began to paint the occasion as the perfect opportunity to have a romantic dinner with your lover. Seizing the business chance, hotels and stores jumped on board and started offering Christmas plans and events.
The romantic notions were cemented by the release of “Koibito ga Santa Claus” (“My Lover Is Santa Claus”) by singer-songwriter Yumi Matsutoya in the 1980s. The upbeat track, which to this day plays almost as pervasively as Mariah Carey’s “All I Want for Christmas Is You” during December, gave new meaning to visits by Santa.
Perhaps in part due to Matsutoya’s song, the pressure to spend the night before Christmas with a lover was stronger during the ’80s than it is today, according to Yukiko Koizumi, Section Eight’s marketing chief.
“During my time, the bubble era of the 1980s was when it boomed. Back then, everyone considered Christmas Eve as a time to spend with your boyfriend, but now it has become more casual,” she said, adding that many now prefer to spend the night with friends or family.
Of the 416 unmarried people Aisekiya Labo surveyed, 47.8 percent said they wanted to spend Christmas Eve with a partner or someone they are infatuated with, followed by 26 percent who said by themselves and 13.9 percent who said with family. The results for Christmas Day showed a similar trend, though a slightly higher 19 percent said they wanted to spend it with family.
By age group, almost 40 percent of single men in their 20s said they wanted to spend Christmas Eve with a lover or the target of their infatuation. In contrast, only 19.2 percent of single women in the same bracket said the same, with the majority saying they wanted to spend Christmas Eve with family and Christmas Day with friends.
But single men in their 30s seemed to have different notions, with 59.6 percent saying they wanted to spend Christmas Eve alone and only 17.3 percent saying they wanted to spend it with a lover or person of interest.
Likewise, 40.4 percent of single women in their 30s said they wanted to spend Christmas Eve alone, with only 21.2 percent saying they wanted to spend it with a lover or romantic interest.
Since opening the first Aisekiya branch in Akabane in Kita Ward in March 2014, Section Eight has developed around 50 matchmaking venues across Japan. The chain has served over 10 million customers in the five years since its opening, which led to around 350 married couples as of November, according to the company.
The system is simple. You come with at least one other person of the same sex, and the staff will match you and your friend with another pair of the opposite sex. You can talk with them for as long as you like, but if at any time you wish to rotate to another table, just tell the staff.
Girls eat and drink for free, while guys are charged ¥550 ($5) per 10 minutes on weekdays, or ¥650 on weekends. However, they don’t pay for any time they are not seated with a pair of girls.
Sawa said that the number of customers at Aisekiya around Christmas has been increasing yearly, with December now the third-busiest time of the year after the summer months and Golden Week.
“Five years ago, when we first opened, our stores were only 20 percent filled for Christmas Eve and Christmas Day. Last year, they were 80 percent filled,” he said.
The company attributes the growth to a shift in dating culture, which Aisekiya has helped trigger. In the past, people, especially women, were reluctant to use matchmaking services because they felt embarrassed to parade their singleness. But as Aisekiya grew in popularity, people became more comfortable coming during Christmas as well.
“It became a normal thing, just a place to meet new people,” said Section Eight’s Koizumi, adding many services imitating Aisekiya have since cropped up.
In recent years, popular dating apps like Pairs and Tinder have further normalized the active search for a partner and “reduced the hurdle needed to meet someone,” said Sawa. Thanks to that, people are no longer embarrassed to use Aisekiya, which offers many advantages over apps and gokon (group blind dating), which has all but disappeared from the landscape.
From the standpoint of cost performance, Aisekiya will often work out cheaper for guys, with an hour amounting to under ¥4,000. They pay much less than what they would on dates to meet an equivalent number of women, and the system is more efficient than apps, which often require monthly fees, according to Sawa.
“When people get drunk, they want to talk to someone of the opposite sex, but they can’t use an app (to find someone so quickly). So they go to the most convenient place around, and bam, there’s an Aisekiya right on the street,” he said.
For women, who can eat and drink at all Aisekiya branches without spending a dime, the establishment offers a safe way of meeting new people.
Although customers are free to chat for as long as they like, the staff at Aisekiya can step in if there is any trouble.
“Apps are one-on-one, so it’s easy to seal the deal. But if things get awkward, no one can help,” Sawa said.