TAIPEI – On Geoffrey Li’s 40th birthday last year, he put aside his dream of an early retirement on an idyllic island and instead decided to raise a child in Taiwan using a surrogate in Southeast Asia.
Li and his husband — whose twin boys are now three months old — are among an increasing number of gay couples in Taiwan becoming parents through surrogacy even though the procedure is illegal on the self-ruled island deemed a wayward province by China.
Taiwan became the first place in Asia to legalize gay marriage in May and more than 2,000 same sex couples have since wed, prompting a rush of commercial surrogacy agencies to head to Taiwan to help more LGBT+ couples seeking to start families.
“Having a child in the world to care for, who will return our love unconditionally, is an amazing experience we did not expect to have,” Li said.
Globally, the popularity of surrogacy — where a surrogate mother is either implanted with a sperm and egg or becomes pregnant using her own egg — is soaring, particularly among LGBT+ couples who want to become parents.
Global fertility services were estimated in an initial valuation to be worth about $21 billion in 2018 with the industry forecast to grow to $41 billion by 2026, according to India-based market research firm Data Bridge.
Surrogacy laws around the world vary.
For example, Taiwan, France and Germany prohibit all forms of surrogacy, while Britain, Canada and New Zealand allow some forms of altruistic surrogacy but it is illegal to pay a woman for her services.
Taiwan’s Assisted Reproduction Act forbids any form of surrogacy and any attempts to amend laws, as recently as 2017, have failed due to opposition from women and children’s rights groups.
Conservative groups, such as the Coalition for the Happiness of Our Next Generation, have actively campaigned against LGBT+ parenting and marriage equality.
But although two-thirds of Taiwanese voters — about 7 million people — opposed changing the country’s civil code to recognize same-sex marriage in a 2018 referendum, parliament in May passed a law legalizing gay marriage.
New frontier
Under current laws, same-sex couples can only adopt children who is biologically related to at least one of them, with activists marking this as one of the next frontiers in the fight for LGBT+ equality on the island of 23 million people.
The Taiwan LGBT Family Rights Advocacy (TLFRA) group said they are in contact with at least 300 “rainbow families” and expect the number of same-sex parents to rise as the new gay marriage law spurred visibility and acceptance.
“Part of the (LGBT+) community is celebrating, while part of the community has a lot of fighting to do,” said Chu Chiajong, administrative secretary of the TLFRA.
This has been encouraged by the arrival of commercial surrogacy agencies, mainly from the United States, in Taiwan where hundreds of gay couples are willing to pay up to $140,000 to start a family — almost 10 times the average annual salary.
There is no legislation concerning surrogacy at the federal level in the United States and some states allow commercial surrogacy arrangements.
Men Having Babies, a New York-based non-profit that helps gay men become fathers through surrogacy, hosted its first conference for prospective Asian gay parents in Taipei in March.
About 320 people attended, forcing the organizers to request a space twice the size of the room originally booked.
“People were revelling in it. They were proud of the fact this was happening,” said group founder Ron Poole-Dayan, who was part of one of the first same-sex couples in the United States to father children through gestational surrogacy.
American Fertility Services, San Diego Fertility Center and International Surrogacy Center were among the sponsors of the event, which included a panel on budgeting, testimonies from parents and surrogates and on-site consultations with clinics.
Divided public
Jerald Goldstein, founder of Fertility Specialists of Texas (FST), attended the conference as part of a bid to build businesses in Taiwan and China.
He said clients from Taiwan had gone from zero a few years ago to dozens coming to the United States for surrogacy, with Taiwan culture placing high importance on family blood lines.
“There has been more interest; we have been seeing more patients from there,” he said.
Tsou Tzung-han, 35, a journalist in Taipei, and his husband, who works in logistics management for a technology company, bought a 40-year-old apartment that needed work rather than a dream new flat and stopped holidays to save money for surrogacy.
The pair, whose parents are factory workers and farmers, have also applied for financial assistance from Men Having Babies without which they will not be able to continue.
Tsou said it is unfair that current adoption laws are pushing same-sex couples to spend vast sums conceiving a child.
“The reason we are doing the surrogacy thing is because it is the only option for us,” he said.
Some Taiwanese couples opt for legal surrogacy “gray areas” such as Cambodia, which has no laws against surrogacy, or Russia, where surrogacy is legal for straight couples and single women who are medically unable to conceive a child themselves.
But a lack of clear regulations can create problems when leaving the country or registering the child in Taiwan, according to TLFRA.
Yu Mei-nu, a lawmaker for the ruling Democratic Progressive Party, said Taiwanese society remains divided on the issue of LGBT+ parenting with some groups saying children needed both a male and a female parent to develop successfully.
But she said allowing gay marriage had “opened a door” for same-sex families.
“It was difficult to discuss the issues related to adoption rights of the same-sex spouses in our society and in our parliament,” said Yu Mei-nu.
Jack, 31, who lives with his boyfriend of nine years in Miaoli county in the west of Taiwan, has created an embryo in a country in Europe and is currently in the process of having it transferred to the surrogate.
Jack did not want to give his full name for fear of repercussions as both he and his family are concerned about people’s reactions to his as-yet-unborn child, aware that public opinion in Taiwan remains sharply divided.
“Some people in Taiwan hate homosexuals,” Jack said. “But I told my family that if all of us love my children, they will have the ability to face all of the evil things in the world.”
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