The joy of not being accepted

I am so grateful to professor Jeff Kingston for his April 14 review of Adam Komisarof’s book “At Home Abroad: The Contemporary Western Experience in Japan.” I’ve lived here for nearly 17 years and have never really understood my own deep feelings about this country and its people.

As a teacher, I have only been able to scratch the surface in discussions with my advanced students over the years, never to really understand my love/hate relationship with Japan.

I’ve always viewed with a certain disdain those Westerners who are said to have “gone native,” and thus I was suspicious of the late Donald Ritchie. Although I had never read him, I believed him to be a complete Japanophile.

But how refreshingly therapeutic it was to read Kingston’s quotes from Ritchie such as: “If I were Japanese I wouldn’t stay in this country for more than ten minutes. I stay here because I am in a position which I find preferable — a position where none of their qualifications for being a member apply. … I never said I fell in love with Japan. A lot of people writing about me said that I fell in love with Japan. … We (foreigners) have the best seat in the house.”

I too rejoice in not being accepted here and, indeed, am proud to be a gaijin. As Ritchie said, not being accepted means “they leave us alone and we are not really held responsible for things. We are like big children. This is a huge advantage”.

I have finally been able to understand, and can now express my own ambivalent feelings toward this country, thanks to Kingston, Komisarof and, especially, Ritchie.

I will buy Komisarof’s book and study Ritchie’s writings. I may then understand Japan and the Japanese further. I encourage confused gaijin like me to do the same.

paul gaysford

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